A friend shared this on Facebook today. Now, I’m not even close to thinking about divorce, but I read this and instantly connected. It’s like he wrote this just for me. (He didn’t, of course.) It’s so real and so raw that it almost made me tear up. So I sent it to my husband, not to pick a fight but to say, “I hear you. Please hear me.” And it’s not that I haven’t said these things to him… It’s that I haven’t been able to articulate to him on this level – on his level.
It seems so unreasonable when you put it that way: My wife left me because sometimes I leave dishes by the sink.
It makes her seem ridiculous; and makes me seem like a victim of unfair expectations.
We like to point fingers at other things to explain why something went wrong, like when Biff Tannen crashed George McFly’s car and spilled beer on his clothes, but it was all George’s fault for not telling him the car had a blind spot.
This bad thing happened because of this, that, and the other thing. Not because of anything I did!
Sometimes I leave used drinking glasses by the kitchen sink, just inches away from the dishwasher.
It isn’t a big deal to me now. It wasn’t a big deal to me when I was married. But it WAS a big deal to her.
Every time she’d walk into the kitchen…
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